Self-reflection: Take time to reflect on your feelings, thoughts, and reasons for considering an abortion. Understand your emotions and motivations so you can express them clearly to your family. See the section above on talking about abortion with yourself for more on this. 

Choose the right time and place: Find a quiet and comfortable environment where you can have an open and private conversation with your family. Choose a time when everyone is calm and available to engage in a meaningful discussion. You don’t want to spring this on them when they are at work, for example. 

Plan your approach: Think about the best way to approach the conversation. Consider your family members' communication styles and any potential concerns or sensitivities they may have. Writing down your thoughts in advance may be helpful to ensure you convey your message clearly.

Share your emotions and thoughts: Start the conversation by sharing your emotions.. Be honest and open about your feelings, fears, and concerns. Express that you value their support and want to have an open and understanding dialogue.

Clearly state your decision: Once you've expressed your emotions, clearly state your decision to have an abortion. Use "I" statements to express your own desires and needs, such as "I have made the decision to have an abortion because..." or "I feel it is the best choice for me because..."

Provide factual information: Offer factual information about the abortion procedure, including the medical aspects and any ways you need them (picking you up after a surgical abortion, for example). Share resources or references that can help them better understand the process. For the abortion process, visit the Accessing Abortion page. 

Address their concerns and misconceptions: Be prepared for your family members to have questions, concerns, or misconceptions about abortion. Listen actively and respectfully to their perspectives. Understand that they may also need space to understand their emotions before they can communicate them. And remember that whatever their emotions, your choice about your body is entirely your call. 

Seek empathy and support: Share your need for empathy and support from your family during this challenging time. Explain why their understanding and acceptance are crucial to you. Encourage them to put themselves in your shoes and consider the complexity of your decision.

Discuss boundaries and privacy: If you desire privacy or confidentiality regarding your decision, express this to your family. Clearly communicate your boundaries and the importance of respecting your privacy.

Offer alternative ways to support: If your family members have concerns about your decision, be open to discussing alternative ways they can support you during this time. This might include emotional support, accompanying you to appointments, or helping with any practical arrangements.

Educate about the impact of support: Help your family understand that their support can positively influence your emotional well-being during and after the abortion process. Explain that their non-judgmental and compassionate support will contribute to your overall well-being.

Reaffirm your relationship: Reassure your family members that your decision does not change your love and respect for them or your commitment to the family. Express your gratitude for their willingness to engage in this conversation and emphasize that you value their ongoing support.

Remember that each family dynamic is unique, and it's important to approach the conversation with patience, understanding, and an open mind. Family members may have different perspectives and reactions, but maintaining respectful communication can help foster a supportive environment. If necessary, seek additional support from friends, counsellors, or support hotlines to help navigate the conversation and your emotional well-being.